There’s been a recurring theme in many of the questions I get on Instagram and I couldn’t quite pinpoint it until last night (at 9:30pm-past my bedtime, I stayed up too late). All the questions are somewhat similar but they all, to me, are surrounded by the same issue, caring about what other people think. To some degree at one point or another I think we all care what others think of us. My 13-20-something year old self cared a lot more than I do now. As I started thinking about and how I could offer up some advice, it reminded me of when I first started this blog in NYC 5 years ago. I was terrified to start a blog, almost embarrassed. One because I didn’t really have any purpose behind it and had no idea what I was doing, and two because I was so afraid of what people would think of me. I have always been a bit of an introvert, which is also why up until the last year or so I haven’t really shared anything personal about myself on this blog. It has been a learning and growing process for me, but if I hadn’t taken that risk 5 years ago, how different my life would look right now. A lot of my IDGAF attitude came with age and experience but also with the realization that I’m happiest when I make decisions for myself. Nobody knows me better than me. I know I’ll never make everyone happy. I know there’s just some people that won’t like me or approve of everything I do, I’m ok with that. Being able to make decisions and live your life on your own terms without worrying about what everyone thinks is powerful. It will not only build up your self-esteem and confidence but it will bring you happiness and fulfillment. Letting go of what other people think about you is a skill that takes practice. Here’s some things to think about if you find yourself in a pattern of getting wrapped up in what others think about you. Would love to know how you guys feel about this topic. Let me know in the comments.
Why do I care what others think?
What do I really want? Think about the decisions you’d make if you weren’t afraid of judgement from others.
What’s the worst that could happen if I do this thing/make this decision?
Am I being true to myself?
You’re never going to please everyone. People will dislike you, people will judge you, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
You only get once chance at this life, make it count.
Nobody is perfect, NOBODY.
Vulnerability is ok. It’s important to take risks. It’s important to fail. That’s how we grow and learn.
You know yourself best. This is something I’ve learned over time. I know what makes me happy, sometimes I make mistakes. I’ve had failures but I figured it out.
To live in the moment. Stop worrying about the “what ifs” and focus more on being present.