I was so grateful for all of your incredible responses to my post about conquering self-doubt. In addition to your thoughtful comments, DMs and emails there were a lot of requests to create similar content so I thought I’d kick of this week with some positivity. Negativity creeps into our lives in a lot of ways, whether it’s through social media, tv, “friends” or complete strangers, and it’s exhausting. Positivity makes us feel good, happy, excited and energized, while negativity does the exact opposite. The reality is, we are in control, and attitude is everything. Today I’m sharing some of the ways I get rid my of negativity and how to start each day with a grateful heart.
Digital Detox – I mentioned this a little bit in my self doubt blog post, but it’s so important to take a break from social media. That probably sounds a little odd coming from a blogger that spends A LOT of her time on social media and also relies on it to make a living. But if we’re being honest, social media makes everyone feel like shit at one point or another. And why wouldn’t it? It’s a place where everyone shares the best version of themselves and their life. It’s a highlight reel. That’s not to say there aren’t lots of great things about it. Social is a way to connect with people and discover new things and I love that, but it can also be a black hole of comparison and feeling bad about yourself. The thing is, actually going out and doing stuff, like experiencing life, is a lot more fulfilling than scrolling through Facebook or Instagram. Again, it’s all about balance. I’m not saying delete all your social media accounts and smash your phone, just take a break every now and again, and unfollow any accounts that make you feel crappy or give off negative energy.
Assess your friend group – Think about how you feel before, during and after you’ve spent time with a friend. Do they make you laugh? Do they lift you up? Do they make you feel good about your life and yourself while still being honest and truthful? If the answer is no, that’s probably not a good friend. My motto is to focus on the quality not the quantity of your friends. Anyone that’s putting you down, stressing you out or making you feel like you’re not good enough doesn’t belong in your life. That goes for all relationships. I know family is complicated, but you can limit the time and energy you spend on people that don’t impact you in a positive way.
Get Your Fitness On – I notice that if I go too long without getting a good sweat I start to spiral. I get anxious, stressed and negative. I feel so good after a hard workout whether it’s barre or a yoga class. I find yoga to be really good for my mental health and always leave feeling positive and happy. Nothing like getting your zen on to get rid of negative thoughts and feelings. A quick five minute meditation or breathing exercise is also a great way to start the day.
Eliminate Reality Television – I might get a lot of flack for this one but honestly I stopped watching reality tv years ago and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done. I don’t wanna make you feel guilty for watching it so please, if that’s your way to unwind and you enjoy it then by all means ignore this advice. We all have our shows so I totally get it. Personally, reality tv just made me feel bad and honestly gave me anxiety watching it. The next time you go to turn on a reality show whether it’s Real Housewives or the Kardashians (is that even still on I have no idea?) think about how you feel after. If you don’t feel good, maybe try something else and see if it has a different effect. Disclaimer: I actually do watch one reality tv show, American Pickers, because Craig loves it. But seriously there’s nothing negative about Mike and Frank, those two are the bomb.
Be Grateful – I love this quote, “When you love what you have, you have everything you need.” The moment you start acknowledging all of the things you have to be grateful for is the moment you stop worrying about all the things you think would make you happier. It doesn’t have to be grand. There are so many small moments and things that if we take the time to notice, can change the course of the day or even your life.
Practice Self-Care – I keep hearing the phrase self-care recently and I think it’s because everyone is realizing its importance. Thinking and feeling positive can be pretty difficult if you’re stressed, tired and burnt out. Set aside time every week for self-care. For me it changes, I like to get facials and mani/pedis as a treat to myself, but I also have non-monetary things I do for self-care. This summer I’ve been taking Friday afternoons off to go for a swim with Craig and Nora. It’s just a few hours but it’s a special time we spend together and it makes me so happy.
Be Kind – Making someone else feel good will make you feel good too. Whether it’s a compliment to a stranger, taking a friend out for lunch, or everyday courtesies like holding the door and saying “please” and “thank you.” We all get wrapped up in our own lives, our phones, our jobs, and we forget to be nice to one another. I know how good it makes me feel when someone is kind to me so I try to extend that same kindness in my everyday life.
When All Else Fails Try Pinterest – I’m a sucker for a good quote (case in point, this Pinterest board). Find positive affirmations and quotes that make you feel empowered. Write them down in a journal or save them somewhere so you can go back and read them. In the spirit of positivity I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes lately…